My grandma is dying. My mom wants me to visit. To...

My grandma is dying. My mom wants me to visit. To say goodbye. But Grandma was cruel to me. She bullied me for being overweight. Made fun of my interests. Called me stupid. Everyone excuses it. "She's from a different generation." "She doesn't know better." "She loves you." Abuse from old people is still abuse. And I don't owe her a deathbed reconciliation. My mom is angry. Thinks I'm heartless. But protecting myself isn't heartless. It's survival.